If we really want to know ourselves, how necessary it is to sit with all the layers of complexity, and to hold our reality with compassion. Big feelings of gratitude can also be felt with moments of fear and frailty. We can be both strong and raw, both determined and worn. It is okay to be where we are, while we also hold with intention a desire to move forward. We can view our lives and our growth as a process of ups, downs, challenges, and rest.
With mindfulness, we are more fully aware, and we welcome what is.
For some, there may be discouragement being hit with the waves of hard emotions. It may take extra practice to notice what else is happening, to not only reinforce the negative, to not spiral down with heaviness.
There’s something really significant about validating a person’s reality and whole experience. To welcome all the parts, all the feelings, no matter how conflicting or how confusing they may be. Not only are we needing to do this for others; we can learn to do this for ourselves.
For your reflection: Jot down some conflicting feelings, starting with a phrase like “On one hand, I am….” and “I am also….” They may be reflections about yourself, your relationships, or the state of the world. Is there anything that feels confusing to you right now? What feels most distressing? What is the hardest part?
Action steps: Offer yourself some welcome and kindness by imagining the different parts of you coming to join you in the room, around a campfire, or in your lap. Is there a particular part of you that needs nurturing or comfort? See if you can bring your breath, your hand to touch a part that feels distressed, or add some warmth (with soothing water, a cup of tea, a blanket, or fire). If you feel so led, add a soothing phrase like “I’ve got you! I see you! I’m here!”
