We are biologically wired to connect and integrate. And when things come up that hurt us or scare us, we get this urge to fight, run away, or avoid it.
What do you notice happening in your body when something feels painful or frustrating? What is your gut response?
We don’t heal by stuffing, avoiding, denying or minimizing pain. We don’t heal by spiritually bypassing. We don’t heal by self-medicating or by trading one addiction for another.
We heal by having the courage to face hard things with strong support. We can work through what has been unresolved or passed down, and find safe people who can hold space that allows us to heal and grow. That act of courage changes the pattern for generations.
You are worth the time and attention. You are worth the investment it takes. Pain is not the enemy. It is an indicator that something hurts and is trying to get our attention so it can heal. Anger or frustration isn’t the enemy either. It tells you that something matters and needs to be heard or maybe handled differently.
For your reflection: How have I historically responded to pain or frustration? How do I normally cope or react? Would I be willing to experiment with allowing that pain to be there and learning how to heal? Is there a response that is needed to the things that frustrate me to help bring some greater support?
Action steps: Take a few moments to pause and notice something that feels stirred up inside of you. It could be any strong emotion of sadness, pain, anger or fear. See if you can spend just a moment and listen to it. What does it want you to know? See if you can offer it some comfort and compassion.
