Sometimes the path to connection, of coming back to yourself, is first noticing when you have needed space to breathe. We rush; we lose time; we put too much on our plate. We lose track of ourselves. Our self-care practices and rhythms get hard to maintain. And for whatever reason, it becomes clear, we know we have to step back.
Perhaps this change in season is a time for coming home.
We extend ourselves; we work hard; we give much. And then comes the need for coming back. For the long exhale, a slow and steady rhythm, a state of rest and recovery.
I hate disconnection…especially with myself. I am a nurturer. Relationships matter immensely to me. It is horribly painful when relationships are distant, broken, or unhealthy. I’ve learned, though, that the one relationship I will always have is with myself. If I’m not taking care of that, from what do I have to give?
Attachment language uses the concept of a secure home base. Knowing that you can always come home, to safety, to connection, to attunement. From that foundation, you learn that you can launch. It is the way we can become our best selves, to keep coming back.
Keep checking in with yourself. Your heart, your mind, your thoughts, your feelings. If you get overwhelmed? Come back to your breath. Nurture yourself with some rest, some water, some balance, some movement. Pause to slow everything down, even for just a moment; come back to home base.
For your reflection: Connection may be risky or costly, but disconnection can be painful. Consider areas of your life that feel connected and those that feel disconnected. What would it mean for you in this season to find more moments of connection? What works well for you? What helps?
Action steps: Extend your arms out far and wide until you can feel your muscles really stretch. Then bring your arms to cross in front of you with a warm embrace. Whisper an intention or phrase that affirms your commitment to come back home. Do one specific thing that will nurture your heart. Stay in this moment until you can listen to your body, and respond with attentiveness, to what your heart is looking for.
