Sometimes the snow globe spins up quite a storm, and you can’t see clearly until it settles. Our emotions are that way, and even more so when we are in relationship with others who also have their emotions, histories, and experiences. Our busyness can stir us up, or a trauma response, or feeling misunderstood or conflicted — all of these cause an internal storm that needs time to settle before we can land and find our feet again.
The last couple of weeks have been like that for me. So much happening, all of which required time for my heart and mind to process, reflect, and integrate. I had been taking further steps into my healing journey, all at the same time that life stirred up new opportunities to work on the layers.
We talk about healing trauma as being able to metabolize and take in all that has happened and how we’ve experienced it. We do that best little by little, because often it is happening too fast and too much at once for our nervous system to settle and for our narrative to be able to make meaning from it.
Finding a sense of home base, letting the snow globe and emotions settle, I can step back and find what I think and feel and what it means to me. It can hurt deep when someone close doesn’t hear or understand, or doesn’t engage with any curiosity, or doesn’t meet you with the same passion or heart. But as I land, I’m realizing the peace of finding a sense of home and clarity in the authenticity of me, being true to me. I can honor my reality, my thoughts and feelings and experiences, and settle there.
For your reflection: Consider a recent time that you honored your own voice and experience. What were some ways that you were true to yourself and took yourself seriously? How can this give you strong support as a home base, even if others don’t seem to get it or respond the way you would want them to?
Action steps: If it matters to you, it matters. Affirm one thing you know to be true for you, even if someone else disagrees or sees it differently.
